My dad dating much younger woman
He spends weekends jumping out of airplanes, and I spend them reading a book at the drop zone waiting for him to land.And despite Tim's initial blow-off, we have quite a bit in common.He was tall, muscular, and blond, with stone gray eyes and a low gravelly voice. But when I suggested we go out for a beer, he gave a polite yet immediate "no." Tim later confessed he thought I was beautiful and smart, but there was one thing working against me: I was 21; he was 47, and unlike most men who'd be flattered by a younger woman showing interest in them, he thought going on a date with a woman young enough to be his daughter would be ridiculous.Fast-forward five years and I am insanely in love with this man.I am saddened by the thought that I will outlive him, yet I find immense comfort in knowing that I get to spend any time at all loving him. His kids are grown, and he doesn't know if he could start all over.I can't imagine not creating life out of our love, but I'm terrified my children will grow up to hate me because they won't get the same time with their dad that most kids do.At times, both of our families have been embarrassed by our relationship.When his daughters' friends see pictures of me and Tim, his daughters feel the need to explain, "Yes, that's his girlfriend; yes, she is really young." We ourselves have been embarrassed too — like one time when a stranger assumed Tim was my dad and we had to correct him. Tim had never dated a younger woman before me — he was married for 18 years to a woman his age and divorced for five years before our paths even crossed. Still, we're both smart enough to know that being madly in love with each other isn't enough.
I was at a crowded bar in my hometown of Virginia Beach, Virginia, on a scorching July night when I mustered up enough liquid courage to approach the future love of my life.
Despite all the love, we've been called every name in the book: I must be a gold digger and have daddy issues.
He must be a pervert or be very immature to love me.
I know my older brother can (and probably will) move out, and I have offered my couch to him in case he is uncomfortable staying with her. He can’t go anywhere, and she clearly doesn’t care how he feels about this situation at all. All I know is my mind is overwhelmed and I am upset.
I’m not sure how to approach Thanksgiving, since she still does not know that I know about her boyfriend.