Holiday dating disasters
watching he’s cousins new girlfriend – also there for the first time – make a complete fool of herself by getting too drunk.She made such a bad impression, all the parents present didn’t like her – I did really well – they all liked me, compared to her – I was a angel!!Sooner or later, the issue of “who’s family should we spend Christmas with? Now, you’ll probably each have your own holiday traditions and you may not have ever envisaged changing yours, but there will come a time in your life when you’ll have to compromise with the person you’re dating.It’s important that you discuss what you’d like to do well in advance of December 25th.Parties can be stressful and awkward for even the most graceful people — and adding a new beau to the mix will just increase the pressure on you. Think twice about casually inviting him to any family holiday party. Introducing a new guy to anyone in your family automatically ups the ante, especially during the holiday season.Plus, a bunch of people standing around talking – while getting drunk and doing crazy dance moves is no outsider’s idea of fun if he is shy. Similarly: Don’t be offended if he doesn’t bring you to his. Also, sometimes our families make us act not like our better selves…So I should have thanked her for getting too drunk. But what happens when it all goes a bit ‘partridge in a pear tree’-shaped?
Do Christmas Eve with his folks, and spend the day of the 25th with yours, or lunch with one clan and dinner with the other.
You can also simply make each other presents, like a sportify list (consisting of a cozy winter soundtrack or a sexy soundtrack). Think “compromise” rather than “sacrifice.” Are you and your new boyfriend talking about how to split up the holidays?
Does he want you to spend the holidays with his family members, while you want him to spend them with yours?
Think ahead about the little things you can do to make the day more socially smooth for everyone. The guy you’re dating is a vegetarian, and your grandmother thinks no meal is complete unless it features something that once mooed or snorted ? Instead, it regularly disables people’s manners, amplifies any underlying moodiness or resentment, and encourages them to do things that are ridiculous, inappropriate, or offensive.
And if you’ll be with his family, ask him if he has any tips for you to make a great impression. Bring along a Tofu something and some vegan cookies. Do your best to get enough sleep and to make time for exercise, especially if it’s important to you. So have a glass of wine or two with dinner, but go easy.