Dating a shy coworker
Extroverts can hold their own and fight fire with fire.But if you admire a man with a more subtle style, you have to be careful not to overwhelm him with your eagerness, or nudge him into "going along" passively with your agenda.But I don’t know many women who enjoy being the good-enough-for-now option.If each woman in situations 1 - 7 were to get the ball rolling herself, or help the man date her and make excuses for his behavior, she would simply be prolonging the agony of being in a go-nowhere entanglement.If a man isn’t a good fit for you, The Rules will “work” by revealing early on that you are incompatible.
The good news is that you don't need to be an introvert to date one. You'll be pursuing him, so your energy will shift from being feminine to masculine, and that's not healthy or sexy (for you or for him) in the long run.This article was co-authored by Klare Heston, LICSW.Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker in Ohio.Since you’re not approaching men (by asking for their help or inviting them for coffee), the rules will help you avoid players and pick-up artists as well as looky-loos—dudes who stare at you or flirt or “favorite” your online profile, but who never actually ask you out. You don't need to pretend to be an introvert in order to attract one. WAIT until he asks you out – don’t make the first move.You won’t get caught up in go-nowhere entanglements or affairs with unavailable men. And once you’re on a date, make sure you show him your most feminine, vulnerable qualities.